Positivity is the Real Superpower

There was the day I stood in my family room yelling at my daughter and her friend…I was so ‘mad’ that I threw a VHS video tape on the carpeted floor and broke it. What could they have been doing that ‘made me’ so mad?

Learning that nothing outside of me ‘makes me’ feel anything was one of the greatest lessons that helped me go from becoming conscious to becoming responsible.

At the start of the bridge to Consciousness, I lived in superficial unawareness, wondering if there is a Gd, and imagining that I could actually control things in my life [that was Arrogance-now I know I can only control my feelings about things and my response to things].

Crossing that bridge, my eyes were opened. I found focus and clarity about who and how I wanted to be. By the end of that bridge, I learned that responsibility is what is 100% mine; responsibility is what would actually give me the control I sought. Going in, drilling deep, figuring out what I wanted was the work: What do I want? What do I want? What do I want? I thought that what I wanted was success, stuff, fame and money; through meditation [which I now know is prayer], I realized that what I wanted was to be happy, to be calm.

The journey revealed this as I took responsibility incrementally in every area of my life—this meant stop blaming my husband, my ‘birthright’ [i.e. parents], my work, parenting, volunteering-anything and everything outside of myself. At the very end of the bridge of Consciousness was the Ring of Fire around which were the blazing words ‘Are you ready to accept Responsibility?’ I stood before it for a long time. Burning hot, flames, hazy in the center-could I dive through into the cool, clean water on the other side? Would I burn and die? What do I want, what do I want, what do I want? I want to be happy and calm. I leaped.

I came out with a superpower! The Superpower of Positivity. I can! I am! When you take Responsibility for who you are and how you want to be, everything becomes 100% in your control! Your thoughts, words and actions are yours [use Affirmations, Meditations, Prayer and Song to support you]. The Superpower of Positivity...to be, model and teach others how reframing a negative thought into a positive one [repeatedly]...can change the way you see the world [and the others see you], how taking control of your thoughts leads to feeling better all the time, how speaking the Positivity Language uplifts others, how loving yourself most offers the oxygen you need to find courage, strength, and power to be Confident, to help others.

Meditation or prayer practice offers the quiet authentic space that leads to a positive stance that jettisons you up, bursting through the water gasping that exquisite breath of air, filling your lungs with vital life-nourishment. In that moment, you become a Superhero; Positivity is your Power and you feel Confident and sure. Imagine that feeling now. Just imagine.

Going from Confidence to Calm...Windows To Your Soul

Is your Soul suffering? Are you aware of it? If you feel unclear, or that you lack focus or direction, it’s likely that you are feeling soul-disconnect.

In the first decade, we’re Super Girl, hands on hips with an ‘I CAN’ attitude. In the second decade, something happens. A shroud of mystery around blossoming womanhood, societal expectations, hormonal infusion and for many, a slow march to an externalized proclivity. How do I look, what does s/he think of me, why am I different from others, and the sway of the multi-hundred billion beauty industry assails our every sense. In the third decade, the ‘I have to’ starts. Whether growing a family or a career, whether partnered or alone, there’s deeply internalized pressure to get it right, get it done, do it now. I have to…I have to…I have to.

Along the way, we become disconnected from our Soul, the strong, self-loving, spiritually-filled girl-child in us whose bright eyes see clearly, with purpose and love. By the fourth decade, you start yearning for ‘more than this.’ As a coach, often I hear ‘I know I’m so lucky, but I feel empty inside.’ Also, me…before I started my trek to a conscious existence that took my entire fourth decade. Then, I suffered for the onset of my 50th year, and now five years later, I feel free and connected.

I’ve learned and now teach others the tools which help you see; Windows to the Soul.

Prayer is the most obvious soul-connection; but if you pray, do you actually feel the linking with your Soul, with Gd? My own prayer-practice started with just attempting to clear my mind [heroic effort!], then moving to conquer a meditative space, then breaking through a fear-barrier of the greatest unknown [Is there a Gd?] to find prayer. Honestly, I don’t ‘get there’ every time, but I know what it feels like now so I know where I’m heading.

Creativity is a multi-faceted gem offering your own formation, through your own senses and life experience to feel, find and connect. There are countless creative outlets you can use. You do not have to be ‘an Artist’ to construct the most fabulous creation of simple beauty to help you ascend.

Nature beguiles; its beauty and power can wrap you in an awe that can astonish the mind and spirit. From the simple acorn turned oak, to the colossal pounding of never-ending surf; from a cool breeze on a hot face to the phenomenon of a green leaf turning red, nature offers limitless opportunity to connect to your own Soul.

Song soothes and song stimulates. Have you felt it? Whether attending your first rock concert as a teen with the pounding base and exhilarating music making your heart rush, or from a heartrending melody bringing tears to your eyes from its mournful rhythm…music can heal and help you connect more deeply than you can imagine.

To gain clarity in your life, choose any or all windows, clean them, open your eyes and look through to see your Soul, swaying, dancing, creating in joy on the other side.